Success

  Confidence is one of those things you can’t really  get  directly. You can’t just try to be confident any more than you can try to be happy. In fact, sometimes this direct approach to seeking confidence can backfire:  You’re so worried about being more confident, that you make yourself anxious and insecure — the opposite of confident! What if we need a completely different approach to building confidence? What if becoming more confident is about what you should do less of rather than more of? As a psychologist, I work with people every day who have serious issues with low confidence and poor self-esteem. This gives me a relatively unique insight into the world of confidence and how it works: I get to see very specific patterns and habits that cause people to lose confidence and feel insecure. If you can identify these habits in your own life and work to eliminate them, I think you’ll find that confidence has a way of showing up on its own. 1. Asking for reassurance When you’re worrie